Hi Richard, A difficult week this week, Kevin got mugged while he was in Newcastle. He was not seriously hurt and he put up a fight and two men helped him so they did not get away with his bag which contained his iPod , books and wallet. Two men attacked him down a side street and there was a scuffle and he is bruised, he got it checked out at a medical centre and is okayy and strangely enough seems little effected by it other than be angry and unable to sleep for a couple of nights. He was in fact more angry about the election results. But often people with AS do not react in a way to such happenings as people expect. Someone called the police but he did not wait for them to arrive which he should have, but was probably too anxious about the social interaction . He did however go for coffee and a chat with one of the men who was in act only seventeen who helped him out.
don't fully understand.
Why is the computer making Kevin hyper? isn't it beneficial that there is an activity which he gains some satisfaction from - and you too?
You would understand if you had had three black screens with system 32 file missing or corrupted:-) After the last one which was different we were told that our hardrive was a right off, lucky under guarantee but Kevin lost most of his photos taken from August last year, had a nightmare of a battle to retrieve his music for his I pod, music he had paid for, not to mention the time and stress trying to reinstall windows and than messing it up and having to take it to the shop to do properly. Trying to get my website to work properly in the software and...well the list in endless and still today it is not as it should be. I think its not so much the computer but the stress of getting it all back up and running, which was hell. I think the idea was for him to have a break but this is not working and today we were back to our normal additive or compulsive use.
I don’t think she meant hyper in a manic depressive way, perhaps a better word would be stressed, which is understandable as explained above and for people like us already overstressed due to medical conditions we are more sensitised to stressful situations
For sure, it can become addictive or probably the better word is compulsive?
I think as said above it is a mixture of both, for us at any rate
as I know only too well when I am researching something and need to find out more and more and more..... Yes I have that too but not always specific to OCD or worrying things resulting from OCD but any research for sheep website, overdoing it and too much detail. Now that may not sound anxiety provoking but it is as it all because mixed up with OCD and perfectionism
Still ruminating about my particular issues and I suppose (like Stephen Phillipson understands) looking for the 'key' to unlock the distress and of course, in the end, like Phillipson says, it is learning to live with uncertainty.
Easier said than done, it is fine to understand this and I certainly do, we all do don’t we but it is putting it into practice. Rather like being told it is pointless to worry, yes again this is so, but if anyone can tell me how we stop worrying or how we live with uncertainty than I and we and all OCD ers may improve and live fuller lives. It not easy to make your mind accept even this common sense reality, though we know that we have to live with uncertainty
After the 3rd date with Anne, via the go-between, the message came back that has decided not to continue. Pity but cannot say am that upset.
Sorry to hear this and hope you soon find someone more suitable. It all takes time to find the right person.
Thought of joining Depressive Alliance as would be nice to make a (female) friend and with whom there is not such a need to explain what my mental health conditions are about. This was my reason for starting the OCD (which did not work out particularly well) but I have made a friend - Tim who is, like me, a sufferer since childhood. We generally meet up once a week here and I make a spot of lunch and it is an opportunity of having a moan at our misfortunes!!!
Great than you have your OCD friend and yes it does help I used to have an OCD friend but eventually we stopped seeing one another but it was she who also was trying to find someone through a dating agency and met up with 14 or so people before finally meeting the right one. The only draw back if you are both depressed or suffer with any mental illnesses that it can rebound , if you know what I mean, cant think of the word the psychologist used but she advised Kevin it would be better for him to live elsewhere. That’s a good idea but as he is unable to pay rent or afford a mortgage I can’t see this happening. Having said that though if your partner has mental health problems at least there is some understanding and empathy, but even here there are times when we all three of us really do not understand one another's different mental health issues.
But really I think it is more a mr of learning to cope better with the ups and down of life don't think I would have much difficulty managing the ups!! but obviously my track record for the downs is questionable.
No I don’t have any ups either the expression referred to the fluctuations of life, the varying degrees of downs.
In mitigation (as we say) I am convinced I was 'born' with ingredients of anxiety/depression.
I agree here we are born with these conditions, not to mean we need necessarily not improve our lot, but not without a good deal of support which is lacking
So sorry that you are finding so much so difficult to cope with and if only there was a magic wand. Presumably Kevin has not been seeing the psychologist for very long as I remember you telling me that he was reluctant to see one. I thought I mentioned Kevin seeing a psychologist but perhaps I did not, yes finally his gp persuaded him to see psychologist. Not a lot of progress yet but he seems to get along well with her, which is something,
Weather here has been very mixed but in spite of it all the bluebells have appeared yet again in the nearby wood. Still bitterly cold here also, but flowers growing everywhere, which does help. All the grass verges and the roundabout covered with dandelions, I know gardeners hate them but they did make a fantastic display of colour. The council came early and cut them down, now we have to look at dried dead grass. I think our environment could be so much better with more flowers and plants. I am wandering if that volcano has anything to do with the reason that it is so cold. We went to York yesterday and it was reasonable weatherise but as soon as evening came, it got so cold.
Have you finished decorating yet? or is it an endless task? I live in a new (or at least it was when we moved into it 9 years ago) house so, thankfully, apart from minor internal decorations have been virtually free from repairs and the costs that brings. I wish we had bought a new house as this is a nightmare. It is still damp because of the weather. We have to do something as it is much worse than we thought and we will have to somehow get an independent surveyor to have a look, We paid a lot of money for a damp course and still there is no improvement.
Oh dear, it is all such a struggle for people like us and some people can say such hurtful things when a few words of compassion would not go amiss. yes I know just what you mean, I feel no one really understands or indeed has any intention of even trying. Even with the headaches few people understand or say anything remotely sympathetic. In the twenty years I have suffered with them only two people reacted with any shock or concern about the fact that every day of my life I have some kind of headache, not even when they lasted twenty four seven which was more or less the case during the first three years !
Anyway, off for a walk with Jem - at least she is always pleased to see me and puts up with my depressions!!!!!!
yes dogs are good companions and I understand why some people refer their dogs to people and I wish OCD did not get in the way of having a dog. In fact dare I say it in recent months I refer animals to most people and am more concerned about animals that human beings . Have you decided whom to vote for? I finally made up my mind yesterday.
Well I went for the devil we knew rather than the one we do not. Whoever gets into power our lives will always be difficult, but more particularly so with the conservatives. At least the BNP got no seats which shows that at least at some level there is some common sense amongst the British public
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